After 14 years in severe chronic pain that restricted movement, digestion, speech and breathing, and one year of remarkable steady recovery, Kirk (truly a guitar god) picked up his guitar for the first time in 7 years in June, began performing for a small group in August, and has his first gig, opening for another band. He’s not “totally healed” – he still can’t take weight properly through his right foot or hip, so he’s still on crutches, but relative to where he was…
(Where he was, his family found bountiful life within his lying down, but still this feels like a resurrection. Kirk & his mom Carlynn are featured in the stage show about caregiving “Heal Thyself”, and the upcoming documentary possibly called “Is there Life within Caregiving?”, along with Christine & her son Jonathon, who play with Alzheimer’s.)
Should this give you hope?
Hope is dangerous.
Hope can give us courage to continue, but can also blind us to the present. When we stopped trying to fix, to finish, to get out of the present, we were able to enjoy each other. According to one theory, only then did the conditions for life emerge, and healing happen. Advice usually irks me, and caregiving is too complex to pack wisdom into bite-sized advice, but for here and now, try this: Let your hope make you more present.
What do you think?
Kirk’s gig:
Sat. Sept 26,
8:15pm-9:15pm. (8:30 start)
961 College St. West (map)
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