Don’t expect every person with autism to be like Dustin Hoffman’s character in Rain Man – it’s a small percent who have astonishing mathematical abilities.
And don’t expect every person with autism to be like Carly – the girl in the story below – but we can still learn a lot from her story.
(It reminds me of a song we play sometimes while audiences gather before we perform “Heal Thyself” – Gordon Lightfoot’s “If You Could Read My Mind”.)
Below are my highlights – here is the source (CTV.ca) – by Angela Mulholland (from a report by CTV medical specialist Avis Favaro and producer Elizabeth St. Philip).
Then, two years ago, Carly surprised everyone. Working with a computer equipped with pictures and symbols, she started typing and spelling words. At first it was just words — help, hurt, head, teeth — but soon she was assembling sentences.
She typed then as she does now — slowly using only finger — and the words she wrote stunned all who knew her.
“All of a sudden these words started to pour out of her,” says Nash-Fenton. “And it was an exciting moment because we didn’t realize she had all these words.”
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Writing reveals secrets of autism
As Carly learned to write better, she began describing what it was like to have autism and why she does what she does, such as making odd noises and hitting herself.
“It feels like my legs are on fire and a million ants are crawling up my arms,” Carly has written about the urge to hit herself.
“I want to be like Taryn,” she has written of her twin sister, who does not have autism.
With her single typing finger, Carly has been able to demonstrate her emotional intelligence and witty sense of humour to a family who says they were stunned by what she revealed.
“We realized that inside was an articulate, intelligent, emotive person that we had never met. She was 10 at the time, and we just met her for the first time [...].
Through her writings, Carly has joked about her “yucky” siblings, shown that she understands their jokes and revealed a curiosity about boys — even asking when can she go on a date.
“Inside, she is a perfectly normal 13-year-old girl. She has crushes, she likes music, she wants to be treated like every other 13-year-old,” says her father.
Carly also has expressed her frustration [...].
“People look at me and assume I am dumb because I can’t talk, or I act differently than them. [...]“
Autism specialist Dr. Wendy Roberts [...] says [...] it’s rare for someone with autism to have apraxia — the inability to speak despite an understanding of language — as well as such an obvious command of written words. Roberts says it may be that Carly possesses unique abilities that make her a rare case, or it may be that her early and intensive training simply drew the skills out. “[...] there hasn’t been a really good look at kids with severe apraxia to see what could they be taught with intense teaching,” says Roberts. [...] “[We need to] develop interventions that will allow written language to develop[...].”
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“Now, she tells us stories, she teases her brother. She just does it in a different way, she does it with her computer.”
Carly’s writing has progressed so far in the last two years, she’s now starting to write a book. It’s a take-off on herself and she’s already come up with the title: “Elephant Princess.”
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“It’s sad that sometimes people don’t know that sometimes I can’t stop myself and they get mad at me. If I could tell people one thing about autism it would me that I don’t want to be this way but I am. So don’t be mad. Be understanding.”
Autism specialist Dr. Wendy Roberts speaks with CTV’s Avis Favaro regarding the unique case of Carly. Carly’s father, Arthur Fleishmann speaks with CTV’s Avis Favaro. Carly at a young age, where she showed early signs of autism. |
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Posted: Feb 23rd, 2008 at 2:13pm Location: Phone: Other: |
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I can’t tell you how much Carly’s writing has helped me to understand my son. Aiden (6yrs old) was diagnosed three years ago as being profoundly autistic. Carly has been able in her own words to explain how she feels and this has helped me to possibly understand how Aiden feels sometimes. Aiden has a twin sister who is ok, she seems to have a link to Aiden which helps a lot. He does talk, mainly copying, which can be just as frustrating sometimes as if he can’t (if you see what i mean). I love my son dearly and i wouldn’t want to change him, but i am working hard to get him to understand the world. He also attends a school which uses ABA and this has had a big effect on him, along with treating him normally. Please Carly continue to enlighten us with your thoughts and feelings as just maybe some of these doctors who keep telling us how we should treat our children (and who have only read about autism in a book) may actually understand what it is like to live with autism. I hope you have fun and happy days as you deserve to be happy and treated as the beautiful person you are. If you do manage to get your thoughts into a book i would dearly love to read it, along with Aiden’s head teacher and all the staff at his school. Thank you so much. susan |